Questionable Motives...

Oftentimes us as human beings are quick to judge, forgetting that we have no authority to do so. As the saying goes, "Stuff happens!" Of course not in those words but the meaning remains the same. It's basically what I call, "selective memory loss." LOL... :)

This weekend, something that I happened to see bothered my spirit a little or I witnessed some things that didn't sit too well with me. After I used some choice words about the matter, I had a discussion with my DH because I needed some clarity in the matter and it went a little something like this.  Summed up in so many words, there was disrespect or some questionable things that went on for far too long to be a misunderstanding. Disrespect in any form or fashion is just completely unacceptable in any form, shape, or fashion especially in an intimate relationship. (JUST MY OPINION) It may stem from being disrespected in past relationships that probably triggered some extra resentment from me. Either way after I voiced my issues on the matter to my better half and voice of reason for a couple of days, I started to think maybe I was being too harsh  and maybe I was judging before I knew the whole story. (literally shrugs shoulders)

Was that considered as judging or was my actions in any way judgmental?

My temporary sympathy voice was topped by my DH's voice of reason. What I was doing was not per say judging but observing what I saw and voicing my opinion, concerns, and expressing my disdain about the matter in it's entirety. 

Let's face it, who am I to judge anyone about their discretion's, if those affected don't give a flying flip then why should I? Right? But if the actions of other's make me feel uncomfortable or feel some type of way then shouldn't it be okay that I voice those concerns? 

What's the difference in being judgmental and just voicing what you have observed?

Oh well it was just something that was on my mind. Maybe I should put it into a story. That may be interesting. Just so the readers know that thought just came to me like a light bulb. I wonder would anybody read it, buy it, or accept it. Only time will tell but my mind is telling me that this would be an interesting tale. I apologize that I can't go into detail about what I witnessed that bothered the heck out of me but my discretion is really to protect the innocent. Use your imagination a little, it could be more interesting than me telling the story. After all the best stories are those based off of true life events with a little imagination thrown in, or at least that's my opinion. Until next time!!!  

Much Love ~NappyRedd~

"If change is free, how much is 'NOTHING' worth?

Change - To become different or undergo alteration: He changed as he matured. 
                 To undergo transformation or transition

Nothing - One that has no substance or importance; a nonentity: "A nothing is a dreadful thing to hold onto" (Edna O'Brien).
                  Insignificant or worthless: "the utterly nothing role of a wealthy suitor" (Bosley Crowther).
                  One of no consequence, significance, or interest: The new nonsmoking policy is nothing to me.

So many definitions can be used to define these two simple words. But the most simplistic thing can be the most detailed or difficult. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking it's simple to follow a recipe when in actuality following the directions to the tee can be a recipe for disaster. It seems simple to do a lot of things until it's time to start working towards the finish line. The obstacles thrown in the path to slow down or completely stop the process are the speed bumps of life. 

But the question should really be: Is change really free?

Change can turn a persons life completely around, upside down, and turn it inside out. The ugly people that need to be cleansed would call that bad but actually it's called growth. The point in one's life where the same old, day to day BS is just not enough or not appealing anymore. Struggling living from pay check to pay check, endless drama, grudges, emptiness, loneliness, loveless, or struggling to cope with life's many hurdles. Really the list could go on forever. It's like the many medication commercials that they advertise that could help with this illness or that problem but then the side effects may cause so many dang problems that one has to ask; "What's the point of taking this mess if I am just going to add more ISH to the already messed up ISH I have going on?" Just my opinion... :) Then you counter that example with a gambler that says "Go big or go home!" Now that statement could go a lot of different ways. Basically my interpretation is, you have to take the risk in order to reach a goal. 

The Versus Factor: How much is 'NOTHING' worth?

This question could confuse folks who are not used to thinking outside of the box. With a question like this in order to find the answer, one must think with the left and right side of the brain with a little street sense sprinkled in the middle to understand. Let's be real, if nothing is changed then nothing is gained. DING DING DING, BY GEORGE I THINK I GOT IT!!! Doing 'NOTHING' can cost too dang much, once again in my opinion. Without gaining anything in life, what's the point? A person can't grow finances, change body image, eat for that matter if they do 'NOTHING'! Just saying... 

Summarization of it all; Changing ones lifestyle will only cost what wasn't a necessity in a persons life to begin with. On the other hand 'NOTHING' causes stress that effects your health, adds wrinkles, anger management issues, and a boatload of other problems. 

Which one is honestly more beneficial?

Until next time... Holla at your girl and let me know how you feel?

Much Love ~Nika~